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Why Preschoolers Know Better Than They Behave

Young children aged 2 to 6 are nothing like us, but this doesn’t stop us from expecting them to be behave better. Their unique personality is characteristically brazen, obsessive, impulsive, hysterical, aggressive, resistant, compulsive, and unpredictable. Fairness for the preschooler means getting what they want, and getting along is overrated. Sharing is not caring according [...]

How to Help When Your Child Won’t Listen

Have you ever felt like saying, “I’ve tried everything and my child still won’t listen!”? There are several factors involved in a child’s willingness to cooperate. What you should know is that a child not doing what she is told is less about “not listening” and more about how able she feels to do what [...]

10 Tips to Teach Your Toddler to Communicate and Help Reduce Tantrums

Every parent who has ever endured a toddler meltdown over miscommunication looks forward to the day that toddlers are able to articulate their needs and wants better. You, your partner, and other primary child-givers are going to be teaching your children how to talk. Here are 10 tips to teach your toddler to communicate better, [...]

April 15th, 2016|Techniques & Tips|0 Comments

You Cut the Toast the “Wrong” Way: Here’s What To Do Now

Before having children, I didn’t realize that it was possible to cut toast the “wrong” way, or “break” the banana, prematurely stir the yogurt, or use the incorrect colour of plate. But parents of toddlers know that this is a THING—actually, quite a stressful thing. I remember the last time I mistakenly put butter on [...]

February 11th, 2016|Techniques & Tips, Uncategorized|3 Comments

Try This Parenting Trick to Make Tidy-Time Easier

You may have heard of the parenting technique called when/ then. It's where you encourage cooperation by engaging the front-brain with calm, helpful instructions like this: "When I am finished drying these dishes, then I'll be able to help you with the puzzle." (Instead of "just a second!") There are many variations of the when/ then: [...]

January 14th, 2016|Techniques & Tips|0 Comments

Enraged to Calm: Try This Parenting Technique

Here is a parenting technique to try when your child’s body is taken over by his or her fight-or-flight reaction (I call that being run by the “back-brain”). Often when this happens, aggressiveness, shouting, and even violence occur. As with most techniques I suggest, it begins with our ability to stay calm and keep our [...]

January 2nd, 2016|Techniques & Tips|4 Comments

My Most Shared Parenting Posts of 2015

I learn a lot about what is most helpful for parents by examining the posts that get shared more widely than others. This year was very interesting, as five of the top most read and most shared posts that I wrote were all about techniques! In particular, posts with tips and tricks to help raise [...]

December 29th, 2015|Techniques & Tips|0 Comments

How “Mixed Feelings” Influence A Child’s Behaviour

It is easy to feel that our children are selfish or trying to hurt us when they are little. Young children can be quite rough! Did you know that two-year-olds are actually the most aggressive beings on earth? It is helpful to know that children aren’t throwing, hitting or shouting at us because they are [...]

December 26th, 2015|Techniques & Tips|2 Comments

Quick Parenting Resource Guide

My husband, a family doctor, and I have created this one-page parenting resource guide for paediatricians and other primary health care physicians. It would also be helpful for daycares and preschools. I wanted to post it here so you see which resources we recommend for the most common parenting concerns adults ask their physicians regarding: [...]

November 23rd, 2015|Techniques & Tips|0 Comments

Eight Ways to Reduce the Stress of Parenting Toddlers

Did you know that the most violent beings on earth are two-year-old children? A parent of one is certainly not shocked to hear this! While gathering information for articles about toddlers, I have discovered desperate posts like this on the Internet, “Two-year-old for sale. Cheap!” In order to parent children under four, adults need to [...]

November 15th, 2015|Techniques & Tips|2 Comments