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About Andrea

Andrea Nair considers all aspects of the person when she welcomes someone for counseling and when she undertakes any research, writing or speaking engagements. She works as a psychotherapist, holding credentials as a Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC) through the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA). Andrea has quite naturally branched out from her counseling role into speaking, facilitating and publishing her work in the field of parenting, and she has even written a fictional novel which draws on a composite of clinical situations she has gathered during her practice. As a parenting coach, Andrea’s dream is to continue to expand her messages – empowering parents everywhere to tap into their own natural talents and strengths. She explains to parents how they can understand and overcome negative influences from their own pasts which may be impeding them, and how to use proven parenting techniques to raise self-confident and resilient children who are fully able to excel in this ever-changing world.

I Think About Death Much More Since Becoming a Mom

Growing up in a small, isolated mining community far away from large cities in my childhood and teenaged years, I don’t recall really being aware of death. In our isolation, likely also do to the absence of the Internet at that time, we didn’t hear that much about death. Sure, if you watched one of the two [...]

What to do When Your Child or Student Says, “I’m Stupid.”

One of the most painful things to hear our children or students say is: “I’m stupid” or “I’m dumb.” Our first reaction might be to utter something to counter their statement like, “No, you’re not!” but that response may actually not be helpful. Using phrases that show our children how to address their negative core [...]

April 5th, 2017|Core Beliefs|0 Comments

10 Phrases That Are Helping Me Be a Better Parent

I walked up my stairwell the other day, past the pictures of my children when they were one and three, and suddenly froze. I trot past those pictures many times a day, but for some reason I stopped this time and stared deeply into their young eyes. My own eyes started to water, as feelings [...]

April 2nd, 2017|Techniques & Tips|0 Comments

7 Ways to Help Your Child Handle Their “After School Restraint Collapse”

Be prepared! Your child might come home after school or daycare and fall apart at your feet. I call this “After School Restraint Collapse.” It’s a thing! Actually, you might see this in your partner or even yourself. You conduct, orchestrate, produce, think, smile, keep things in your inside brain that you wish you could say [...]

April 2nd, 2017|Techniques & Tips|0 Comments

Statement, Question, or Request: Teaching Kids How to Ask For Help

Young children first start communicating their needs by making statements like, “I’m hungry,” or, “I was playing with that!” We often jump in to help before realizing that they actually haven’t asked us to do that. If kids receive help without asking for it, they may carry on expecting people to consider and address their [...]

April 2nd, 2017|Techniques & Tips|0 Comments

Top Parenting Resources (both for laughs & help)

If you’ve been following my writing for a while, you’ll be familiar with my “best of” or “favourite resources” posts. I like to survey my readers and colleagues about twice a year to find the parenting resources they find the most helpful. This one is a little bit different: I am certainly including the expert-based [...]

April 2nd, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Dear Parents of Toddlers, Please Learn from My Regrets

I remember very clearly the day a neighbour saw me outside with my then three and one-year-olds and remarked, “Wow, I miss those days so much.” I felt like hitting him! That reaction freaked me out and really told me there was something off in my world. I believe I smiled weakly and replied, “Yeah, [...]

Are backyard trampolines safe? I hunted for information to answer this question.

I have been considering getting a trampoline for years, but my physician husband told me that they were just too dangerous and preferred not to get one. In fact, the official position from the American Academy of Pediatrics  (AAP) is that they advise against the use of recreational/ backyard trampolines. They created a policy statement [...]

July 26th, 2016|Experiences in Action|0 Comments

Momcation: Time To Recharge and Have Fun in NYC

Laura Markham, PhD recently wrote about “radical self care” on her Facebook page. I love the word radical as is applies to taking care of ourselves as parents. I am certainly a radically different parent when I am rested and my buckets are full than when I’m not. A few years ago I discovered something [...]

June 3rd, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments
  • What is your Nice-to-nag ratio? It could be affecting your relationship with your child.

What is Your Nice-to-Nag Ratio?

One of the most liked comments on my Facebook page was, "Wow. Three-year-olds can be crazy making." It can be very hard to be kind to a child who continually pushes our buttons. I know; I’ve been in the “parenting trenches.” I’ve spent hours trying to calm myself when my youngest son woke me up [...]