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About Andrea

Andrea Nair considers all aspects of the person when she welcomes someone for counseling and when she undertakes any research, writing or speaking engagements. She works as a psychotherapist, holding credentials as a Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCC) through the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA). Andrea has quite naturally branched out from her counseling role into speaking, facilitating and publishing her work in the field of parenting, and she has even written a fictional novel which draws on a composite of clinical situations she has gathered during her practice. As a parenting coach, Andrea’s dream is to continue to expand her messages – empowering parents everywhere to tap into their own natural talents and strengths. She explains to parents how they can understand and overcome negative influences from their own pasts which may be impeding them, and how to use proven parenting techniques to raise self-confident and resilient children who are fully able to excel in this ever-changing world.

According to Moms of Young Children, These are the Gifts They Love

Are you looking to buy a gift or do something special for a woman who has young children? Consider these ideas suggested by mothers themselves. For those close to moms of young ones, please know that many of these mamas are often short on energy, sleep, free time, fun, validation, feeling sexy, and stimulating adult [...]

May 11th, 2017|Experiences in Action|0 Comments

“Low & Slow”: My Fav Parenting Mantra

My youngest son loves to help in the kitchen. One day when he asked my sister if he could stir the spaghetti sauce on the stove, I shuddered at the thought of red sauce being flicked out of the pot, but she calmly responded: “Sure. Be low and slow.” He looked at her, smiled, and [...]

The Power of Words: Choosing Ones that Help our Children

Have you heard of positive and negative core beliefs before? These are the beliefs we hold of ourselves, other people, and the world based on our life experiences. These beliefs happen as a result of decisions or interpretations we make about situations we encounter. For example, when a child continually tries to build a tower, [...]

April 5th, 2017|Core Beliefs|0 Comments

I Think About Death Much More Since Becoming a Mom

Growing up in a small, isolated mining community far away from large cities in my childhood and teenaged years, I don’t recall really being aware of death. In our isolation, likely also do to the absence of the Internet at that time, we didn’t hear that much about death. Sure, if you watched one of the two [...]

What to do When Your Child or Student Says, “I’m Stupid.”

One of the most painful things to hear our children or students say is: “I’m stupid” or “I’m dumb.” Our first reaction might be to utter something to counter their statement like, “No, you’re not!” but that response may actually not be helpful. Using phrases that show our children how to address their negative core [...]

April 5th, 2017|Core Beliefs|0 Comments

10 Phrases That Are Helping Me Be a Better Parent

I walked up my stairwell the other day, past the pictures of my children when they were one and three, and suddenly froze. I trot past those pictures many times a day, but for some reason I stopped this time and stared deeply into their young eyes. My own eyes started to water, as feelings [...]

April 2nd, 2017|Techniques & Tips|0 Comments

7 Ways to Help Your Child Handle Their “After School Restraint Collapse”

Be prepared! Your child might come home after school or daycare and fall apart at your feet. I call this “After School Restraint Collapse.” It’s a thing! Actually, you might see this in your partner or even yourself. You conduct, orchestrate, produce, think, smile, keep things in your inside brain that you wish you could say [...]

April 2nd, 2017|Techniques & Tips|0 Comments

Statement, Question, or Request: Teaching Kids How to Ask For Help

Young children first start communicating their needs by making statements like, “I’m hungry,” or, “I was playing with that!” We often jump in to help before realizing that they actually haven’t asked us to do that. If kids receive help without asking for it, they may carry on expecting people to consider and address their [...]

April 2nd, 2017|Techniques & Tips|0 Comments

Top Parenting Resources (both for laughs & help)

If you’ve been following my writing for a while, you’ll be familiar with my “best of” or “favourite resources” posts. I like to survey my readers and colleagues about twice a year to find the parenting resources they find the most helpful. This one is a little bit different: I am certainly including the expert-based [...]

April 2nd, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Dear Parents of Toddlers, Please Learn from My Regrets

I remember very clearly the day a neighbour saw me outside with my then three and one-year-olds and remarked, “Wow, I miss those days so much.” I felt like hitting him! That reaction freaked me out and really told me there was something off in my world. I believe I smiled weakly and replied, “Yeah, [...]