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How to Deal With a Child Who Lies

A parent submitted a question about a child who lies, and I will answer it here in case any other parents have a similar one. Q: My eight-year-old continues to lie. For example, if I ask if she has eaten breakfast, she says “yes” when she really hasn’t. When I ask if her homework is done, [...]

Are backyard trampolines safe? I hunted for information to answer this question.

I have been considering getting a trampoline for years, but my physician husband told me that they were just too dangerous and preferred not to get one. In fact, the official position from the American Academy of Pediatrics  (AAP) is that they advise against the use of recreational/ backyard trampolines. They created a policy statement [...]

July 26th, 2016|Experiences in Action|0 Comments

How to Help Children Through Your Big Feelings

One day I just sat down on the sofa and cried — a lot — for no reason. Instead of doing what I typically do as a psychotherapist, which is to jump into solving mode to “get myself out of this,” I just allowed myself time to cry. I did this because I had faith [...]

  • How to Get Help as a Parent with Postpartum Mood Disorder

What You Should Know as a Parent with Postpartum Mood Disorder

Having children brought out the worst in me (at first). I expected parenting to be more joyful than it actually was. My reality, however, was that I spent a lot of time crying when my children were born. I don’t think we do a good enough job of admitting how hard parenting can be sometimes. [...]

How to Keep Your Kids Safe in the Age of Social Media

Years ago, each time I posted pictures of my children on Facebook, I felt joy knowing my family members and friends could see my boys' smiling faces. I had put my privacy settings on the highest settings, feeling secure that I could safely post pictures of my children and know they would not meet stranger's [...]

  • How to Create the Perfect Calm-Down Corner

How to Create the Perfect Calm-Down Corner

A calm-down corner (or area as it doesn’t have to be in a corner) is a place for angry and upset children to go to engage their minds and release their anger. I used this when my children were little in place of time-out because time-out didn’t work for my sensitive son. Here, I’ll show [...]

  • Here are five fun empathy-building strategies from Michele Borba's new book, UnSelfie, that young kids enjoy.

Five Fun Ways to Nurture Young Children’s Empathy and Kindness

When my three boys were two, four and five, we played a game called “Secret Teddy.” Teddy was a small, ragged stuffed bear that “mysteriously appeared” on one son’s pillow each night with a little note describing how he had been especially caring that day. (Trying to be sneaky was always challenging).  I only needed [...]

Momcation: Time To Recharge and Have Fun in NYC

Laura Markham, PhD recently wrote about “radical self care” on her Facebook page. I love the word radical as is applies to taking care of ourselves as parents. I am certainly a radically different parent when I am rested and my buckets are full than when I’m not. A few years ago I discovered something [...]

June 3rd, 2016|Uncategorized|0 Comments
  • 15 WAYS TO RESPOND TO UNWANTED PARENTING ADVICE

15 Ways to Respond to Unwanted Parenting Advice

From the moment your baby bump starts to show, others are likely to provide unsolicited advice or comment on your parenting strategies. The motivation for unsolicited advice is interesting. Some people are genuinely concerned with helping, whereas others might be attempting to steal power from you by asserting a false parenting superiority. The comments I [...]

  • Why Preschoolers Know Much Better Than They Behave

Why Preschoolers Know Better Than They Behave

Young children aged 2 to 6 are nothing like us, but this doesn’t stop us from expecting them to be behave better. Their unique personality is characteristically brazen, obsessive, impulsive, hysterical, aggressive, resistant, compulsive, and unpredictable. Fairness for the preschooler means getting what they want, and getting along is overrated. Sharing is not caring according [...]